All love relationship starts with a positive note, deep rooted in the dreams of future life together. It’s only time that erode the warmth and loosen the bond. Two different lives tried to be one, push themselves through the chaotic world, balancing, moving, working towards the commitment. Its imperative that some soul in the journey will lost direction or found better soul to move on together. Sometime there are no warnings, no hints that anything is being wrong with the relationship. It’s just a sudden departure. Everything ends in a snap, even before the other person can actually comprehend what had just happened. “I no longer love you” the words spill questions and emotions that stab the other person’s confidence and assertiveness.
Often well meaning friends advice to “just move on” which is easier said than done. Its tough to discount the loss of love, and even more tougher to acknowledge that someone else has taken your place in their heart. A life coach can help you sail through this difficult phase of life. But before you reach out, search for the light inside your soul. Some answers that can help reclaim your life back from heartbreak can come from question you dare to ask yourself.
The relationship has ended. It is now important to moving on in a healthy, productive life. But that doesn’t mean that you need to hurry. Carrying emotional baggage is worse than mourning for few days. Take your time to grieve. Don’t get stuck in anger or resentment. It’s through releasing the emotion that you will heal. Forgive. Choosing love through forgiveness is an essential part of this healing journey.
When you are broke your well meaning friends usually try to regale you with the details that how your ex was wrong for you. They may want to be constructive. But this approach doesn’t help. You need to part your thoughts about your ex. You need support for a new beginning. There is no wrong in letting them know how you feel intrusive in their discussion regarding your ex.
You need your space to grow. Committed relationship often eats up so much of your own time that may cause you feel smothered. Your wish list start to grow, hobbies remain unfinished. This is the time to tick off some of the entries from your wish list. It could be as little as spending an entire day in a spa or can be as big as learning a new language. Just do it. Get involve in some positive constructive work that can remind you that you are moving forward.
Some days are harder than other. Even if you are doing everything right for moving forward, some days the thoughts from past will visit you. You will start wondering how someone who shows so much affection for so long can became stranger just within an instant. You may feel urge to contact them. Instead take a pan and paper, write about all your anger, frustration, guilt, memories until you have nothing left to share. Read it once then symbolically destroy it; Burn it. This may sound little wired but it actually help.
Again bring out your pen and paper. Try to map out next one year – a happier and healthier yourself. Plan some tours, plan some time to rediscover your old passion. Put a limit on watching sad movies or listening to sad songs for next one year. Let go the old version of you and embrace a new vision for the future.
So move forward, say yes to happiness. Remember every experience in life offers a piece of wisdom, even heartbreak. Heartbreak helps you to know – love yourself; Acknowledge that you are the greatest gift to yourself. Put your hands on your chest, feel the beat. A bad chapter has ended. The time now is different, enjoy every moment with every beats of your heart.
Often well meaning friends advice to “just move on” which is easier said than done. Its tough to discount the loss of love, and even more tougher to acknowledge that someone else has taken your place in their heart. A life coach can help you sail through this difficult phase of life. But before you reach out, search for the light inside your soul. Some answers that can help reclaim your life back from heartbreak can come from question you dare to ask yourself.
1. Grieve your hearts out
The relationship has ended. It is now important to moving on in a healthy, productive life. But that doesn’t mean that you need to hurry. Carrying emotional baggage is worse than mourning for few days. Take your time to grieve. Don’t get stuck in anger or resentment. It’s through releasing the emotion that you will heal. Forgive. Choosing love through forgiveness is an essential part of this healing journey.
2. Surround yourself with positive people
When you are broke your well meaning friends usually try to regale you with the details that how your ex was wrong for you. They may want to be constructive. But this approach doesn’t help. You need to part your thoughts about your ex. You need support for a new beginning. There is no wrong in letting them know how you feel intrusive in their discussion regarding your ex.
3. Do something that you have been putting off
You need your space to grow. Committed relationship often eats up so much of your own time that may cause you feel smothered. Your wish list start to grow, hobbies remain unfinished. This is the time to tick off some of the entries from your wish list. It could be as little as spending an entire day in a spa or can be as big as learning a new language. Just do it. Get involve in some positive constructive work that can remind you that you are moving forward.
4. Put your hearts out on a paper
Some days are harder than other. Even if you are doing everything right for moving forward, some days the thoughts from past will visit you. You will start wondering how someone who shows so much affection for so long can became stranger just within an instant. You may feel urge to contact them. Instead take a pan and paper, write about all your anger, frustration, guilt, memories until you have nothing left to share. Read it once then symbolically destroy it; Burn it. This may sound little wired but it actually help.
5. Get excited about the future
Again bring out your pen and paper. Try to map out next one year – a happier and healthier yourself. Plan some tours, plan some time to rediscover your old passion. Put a limit on watching sad movies or listening to sad songs for next one year. Let go the old version of you and embrace a new vision for the future.
There is nothing permanent, except impermanence.
So move forward, say yes to happiness. Remember every experience in life offers a piece of wisdom, even heartbreak. Heartbreak helps you to know – love yourself; Acknowledge that you are the greatest gift to yourself. Put your hands on your chest, feel the beat. A bad chapter has ended. The time now is different, enjoy every moment with every beats of your heart.
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